Victim Of Male Patriarchy.

Some females are victims of a male patriarchal system. True, but what people tend to forget is that they are males who are also victims of the same system or society that portrays them to be dominant. I am one. A male victim of a male patriarchal system.

Why am I a victim of a system that portrays me to be dominant? It's because I lack the features and characteristics of dominance in my home as well as the society. The breadwinner in this male patriarchal system has to be the male. Well, I just feast on what my wife deems to be my share. When she gives out this share, she punishes me for the system that victimizes her kind based on sexuality. The victim of a male patriarchal system is the most effective in my household and for this, I am victimized by the system.

My fellow men when they look at me, they see me be the weakest link in the chain. Due to what happens in 'my household' which is public knowledge. If it was possible they could cut me out of the link of their male patriarchal system. Well, they cannot. They cannot take away the aspect of my manhood in physicality. Though they have managed to critic the being of it, labeled it weak and ineffective. One of them once said to me, " You dominate because of the norms of the male patriarchy but economically you are weak because your wife caters to your well-being."

What could I do to establish more dominance in this system besides the one passed on to me? It is a man's world after all. True or false?

When did the system of male patriarchy start to victimize me? Well, when I got indoctrinated into it during my early childhood years. By the time I was ten years, I had more privileges and rights than my adult sisters. Who through the oppression of it managed to rise above the status quo of male patriarchy by getting educated behind closed doors. Without our parents' knowledge. However, they could not escape the system as they got married off to husbands who were products of this system and took their 'rightful' place within the system.

I was told I was to inherit all that my father had. Even one of his young wives whom in my teen years I began to lust after because I was the heir to our family throne by being the only male child. What is a king without knowledge? How does the heir to the throne manage the kingdom without knowing how it functions? The family members just told me I would inherit it all but never told me thoroughly how I would manage it or get to the inheritance. Just told me, " When father passes on, it is all yours."

When my father did pass on, all that was on my mind was the inheritance and how I would use it. Yet the victims of the system were my sisters who had managed to attain an education. Used the power of education and attorneys to wrestle away my inheritance. I could see my inheritance being dragged away from me using different weapons of education. Like the use of the legal justice system. The only way I could fight back was by use of a male patriarchal system and norms which were of small force as to the weapons of education brought by my sisters. I did not even know how the legal justice system worked but I knew how the male patriarchal system worked.

My brothers-in-law aided my sisters to wrestle my inheritance away from me. Shame on them for betraying a fellow male in support of the weak. Well, the inheritance they would wrestle from me, they would use it to aid and upgrade their status in the system. I was left with nothing but being told to marry one of the local women from our system. From there I could start off my dominance. The woman was thrown at me by the system and I gladly caught her to reinstate myself back into the system.

It was from there that the men in the male patriarchal system started viewing me as weak. Due to having no wealth or inheritance and having a woman thrown at me instead of going for the hunt myself.

                

I could not get employed by just being a male. I could get employed if I had an education and in a male patriarchal system I was too old to learn. But then, the was no need to get an education. I had a wife who had an education and she was supposed to submit to me. She built us a home, managed to get some assets that could regenerate wealth, and placed us in a comfortable area. She had not given me a child yet and it was what I wanted to establish more relevance in the system. She said she could not because she was busy with work and trying to generate more income for us.

I would have none of her poor arguments to stop her from giving me a child. I reminded her what system she was living under. Who was the man of the house and I would make a disgrace out of her by marrying another woman. A patriarchal argument. Her reply was simple, " I will file for divorce tomorrow, let me call my attorney." The word attorney put me in my place. These attorneys were part of the weapons my sisters used to wrestle away my inheritance.

She informed me that a divorce would be the end of my life. The house, the assets, and any other aspect that generated income were all in her name. She could use the legal justice system to make sure I would walk away with nothing. She told me a truth I had denied to myself several times. She said, " Your life is in the palm of my hands and I will use you as an example of how to dysfunction this male patriarchal system." She concluded, " I will be the one who will make a disgrace out of you."

When other males were getting educated on how the world works and planning to use that education to supplement their position within the system. I was focusing on the benefits of male patriarchy. What I would get from it without a single sweat. When women were learning behind closed doors how to break apart the male patriarchal system, I was learning how to get one of them to be my wives whom I would establish dominance over. The men in the system despised me for believing in the system too much and not seeing beyond.

The men backstabbed me just like my brothers-in-law did to me on the aspect of my inheritance. They could not challenge my well-educated wife who was using me as a control experiment on how to break apart the system.

The men were allowing me to be victimized by my wife. Where was the brotherly love? The men victimized me by throwing me to the wolves to see how the wolves feed and attack. For them to prepare defense measures and counter-attack tactics. My wife used me as an example to the women on how to break apart from the oppressive system they were under. Education, education, and critical thinking.

My sisters dared not to assist me in surviving this battle. They could also find ways to either break apart from their husbands to free themselves. Or to bring the husbands to book and account. By demanding GENDER EQUITY first. Then gender equality is at last.

A male, who was victimized by a male patriarchal system he strongly believed in or was made to.

I was willing to inherit and succeed in the wealth I did not know how it was built. Worst of all, by using a male patriarch system I did not know the context of why it was there. I could have asked why. Why?